Caring for the Soul

February 18, 2012

Warning Signs of an Inferior Personality

by Kathryn N. Donev, LPC-MHSP, NCC

Alfred Adler is prominently known for his work and contributions in the area of understanding inferiority. His findings are backed up with research and years of experience. However, the following statements are not Adlerian but, Donevian and nontraditional based not on scientific research, but only on years of observations and personal profiling. The following are three main warning signs or indicators of one who more than likely suffers with feelings of inferiority.

If the individual is/has:

1. Hair Loss
2. Speech Impediment
3. Short

After over ten years of encountering an overwhelming amount of people in leadership positions whom have been excessively authoritative, I began to note common physical characteristics of these individuals. And to my great surprise, I found that those leaders whom had all three of the above listed features were listed high on the following three attributes as well: 1. controlling, 2. demanding and 3. critical of other’s success. And as we all know, the latter attributes are all signs of compensating for inferiority. Therefore, if an individual has all three warning signs of being hair, speech and height challenged, the greater the complex.

I have tested this hypothesis and it has remained true for nearly 95% of cases personally encountered. I challenge you to put this theory to the test as well. Being aware of the warning signs of a personality that is destructive can save you a lot of heartache and headache. While psychological indicators are hard to determine, inferior personalities who seek to destroy you and your reputation to make theirs appear stronger can be avoided by looking for three obvious physical characteristics.

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December 10, 2009

10 Basic Principles of Working with Abandoned and Abused Children

George Barna has rightly stated: “If you want to have a lasting influence upon the world you must invest in people’s lives; and if you want to maximize your investment, then you must invest in those lives while they are young.”

1. Alway keep in mind  it is a difficult and complex task

2. Provide a safe environment and relationship

3. Don’t force the process, there is power in simply presence

4. Be consistent at ALL times

5. Provide unconditional love

6. Empowerment instills within hope

7. Give positive praise  prior to negative acting out

8. Don’t give false hope – make only promises you can keep

9. Remember each child is unique – look at their developmental stage rather than their chronological age.

10. Allow means of release